Children need love. Parents need respect.
It is as simple and complex as that!
A parent needs to feel respected, especially during conflicts. A child needs to feel loved, especially during disputes. But here’s the rub: An unloved child (or teen) negatively reacts in a way that feels disrespectful to a parent. A disrespected parent negatively reacts in a way that feels unloving to the child. This dynamic gives birth to the FAMILY CRAZY CYCLE.
So how is one to break out of this cycle? God reveals ways to defuse the craziness with our children from preschooler to teen, plus how to motivate them to obey and how to deal with them when they don’t. In the Bible, God has spoken specifically to parents on how to parent. This book is about that revelation.
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A Marriage Book with a Difference!
A wife has one driving need—to feel loved. When that need is met, she is happy. A husband has one driving need—to feel respected. When that need is met, he is happy. When either of these needs isn’t met, things get crazy. Love and Respect reveals why spouses react negatively to each other, and how they can deal with such conflict quickly, easily, and biblically.
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This parenting book shows you how to raise self-confident, motivated children who are ready for the real world. Learn how to parent effectively while teaching your children responsibility and growing their character.
Establish healthy control through easy-to-implement steps without anger, threats, nagging, or power struggles.
Buy Here
What the award-winning Boundaries has done for adult relationships, Boundaries with Kids will do for you and your children Here is the help you need for raising your kids to take responsibility for their actions, attitudes, and emotions. Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend take you through the ins and outs of instilling the kind of character in your children that will help them lead balanced, productive, and fulfilling adult lives. Learn how to • set limits and still be a loving parent • bring control to an out-of-control family life • apply the ten laws of boundaries to parenting • define appropriate boundaries and consequences for your kids … and much more. “Boundaries with Kids helps us give our kids the skills they need to live realistic and full lives in meaningful relationships. Not perfect—but healthy!” —Elisa Morgan, president of MOPS International, Inc.
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Learn from 14,000 strong families how to have a fantastic family. With the help of this groundbreaking book, you can take the guesswork out of parenting and be assured that you are building not only a strong family — but a fantastic family. Based on the largest study ever done on strong families — 14,000 families studied over twenty-five years — this book reveals six simple, yet profound, steps to building a fantastic family that will thrive for generations to come.
Buy Here
Everyone knows that high IQ is no guarantee of success, happiness, or virtue, but until Emotional Intelligence, we could only guess why. Daniel Goleman’s brilliant report from the frontiers of psychology and neuroscience offers startling new insight into our “two minds”—the rational and the emotional—and how they together shape our destiny.
Buy Here
Every parent knows the importance of equipping children with the intellectual skills they need to succeed in school and life. But children also need to master their emotions. Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child is a guide to teaching children to understand and regulate their emotional world. And as acclaimed psychologist and researcher John Gottman shows, once they master this important life skill, emotionally intelligent children will enjoy increased self-confidence, greater physical health, better performance in school, and healthier social relationships.
Buy Here
Tom Sanford’s life growing up under the abusive hand of a father who used rage to manipulate and control others was anything but idyllic. His red eyes and swollen lips from beatings at home earned him cruel nicknames at school. But the physical bruises on his body were no match for the wounds to his spirit. How this inwardly wounded boy grew up to become a healer of thousands of like-wounded boys and girls through the ministry of Project PATCH is the stuff of miracles. And this book tells the story. From Sanford’s own troubled past to the heartbreaking stories of the children he and his wife Bonnie have rescued, “Wounded Healer” is an emotional journey of faith, struggle, and redemption. Long after you close the covers of this book, the stories of young lives changed on the miracle ranch known as PATCH will remain in your heart forever.
Buy Here
Positive discipline techniques. Humorous ways to get your point across without acting authoritarian. Creative parenting skills. Disciplining in ways that will inspire your children to be your friends once they get to be adults. Creative ways to gain and maintain control in your family. Logic is not the key to successful discipline, love and consistency are. Ways to protect your empty nest from returning adult children.
Buy Here
Parent Resources
Resources and Books
At The Family Experience we don’t claim to be able to fix families. We believe that’s their job. We create an environment where families are empowered to take control of their own destiny. We create moments ripe for learning, and provide tools that will help them thrive.
If you’re wanting to thrive as a family below are some resources and books that come with our highest recommendations.
Resources
Marriage coaching is highly effective for couples who are willing to work together to achieve their common goals. Coaches help couples resolve issues by facilitating a process of discovery that leads to creating mutually satisfying agreements. Over 85% of the couples contemplating divorce report that they are no longer considering divorce after completing coaching.
www.marriageteam.org
Northwest Family Services is an award-winning, leading provider of creative services that reduce poverty. Since 1983, our mission has supported individual success, family stability, and child well-being. Programs and services include youth programs, professional counseling, couple’s classes, parenting, money management, job readiness and placement, healthy relationship education, and more. Services are offered in the greater Portland metro area in both English and Spanish.
www.nwfs.org
Raising Children to Be Healthy & Hardy is Our Goal!
Family Empowerment Network® (FEN) was founded by pediatrician Dr. Kathy Masarie to empower parents in the raising of their children. She is assisted in her efforts by her associate, Ruthie Matinko-Wald, MA.
At Family Empowerment Network, we believe the most powerful way to support children to thrive and be healthy is by enhancing connection and communication within our families and by networking families with each other.
www.family-empower.com
Whether you consider yourself a step family or a blended family, Restored & Remarried is a hands-on resource for you. Restored and Remarried will encourage and equip couples for the step family adventure.
www.restoredandremarried.com
Books
Children need love. Parents need respect.
It is as simple and complex as that!
A parent needs to feel respected, especially during conflicts. A child needs to feel loved, especially during disputes. But here’s the rub: An unloved child (or teen) negatively reacts in a way that feels disrespectful to a parent. A disrespected parent negatively reacts in a way that feels unloving to the child. This dynamic gives birth to the FAMILY CRAZY CYCLE.
So how is one to break out of this cycle? God reveals ways to defuse the craziness with our children from preschooler to teen, plus how to motivate them to obey and how to deal with them when they don’t. In the Bible, God has spoken specifically to parents on how to parent. This book is about that revelation.
Buy Here
A Marriage Book with a Difference!
A wife has one driving need—to feel loved. When that need is met, she is happy. A husband has one driving need—to feel respected. When that need is met, he is happy. When either of these needs isn’t met, things get crazy. Love and Respect reveals why spouses react negatively to each other, and how they can deal with such conflict quickly, easily, and biblically.
Buy Here
This parenting book shows you how to raise self-confident, motivated children who are ready for the real world. Learn how to parent effectively while teaching your children responsibility and growing their character.
Establish healthy control through easy-to-implement steps without anger, threats, nagging, or power struggles.
Buy Here
What the award-winning Boundaries has done for adult relationships, Boundaries with Kids will do for you and your children Here is the help you need for raising your kids to take responsibility for their actions, attitudes, and emotions. Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend take you through the ins and outs of instilling the kind of character in your children that will help them lead balanced, productive, and fulfilling adult lives. Learn how to • set limits and still be a loving parent • bring control to an out-of-control family life • apply the ten laws of boundaries to parenting • define appropriate boundaries and consequences for your kids … and much more. “Boundaries with Kids helps us give our kids the skills they need to live realistic and full lives in meaningful relationships. Not perfect—but healthy!” —Elisa Morgan, president of MOPS International, Inc.
Buy Here
Learn from 14,000 strong families how to have a fantastic family. With the help of this groundbreaking book, you can take the guesswork out of parenting and be assured that you are building not only a strong family — but a fantastic family. Based on the largest study ever done on strong families — 14,000 families studied over twenty-five years — this book reveals six simple, yet profound, steps to building a fantastic family that will thrive for generations to come.
Buy Here
Everyone knows that high IQ is no guarantee of success, happiness, or virtue, but until Emotional Intelligence, we could only guess why. Daniel Goleman’s brilliant report from the frontiers of psychology and neuroscience offers startling new insight into our “two minds”—the rational and the emotional—and how they together shape our destiny.
Buy Here
Every parent knows the importance of equipping children with the intellectual skills they need to succeed in school and life. But children also need to master their emotions. Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child is a guide to teaching children to understand and regulate their emotional world. And as acclaimed psychologist and researcher John Gottman shows, once they master this important life skill, emotionally intelligent children will enjoy increased self-confidence, greater physical health, better performance in school, and healthier social relationships.
Buy Here
Tom Sanford’s life growing up under the abusive hand of a father who used rage to manipulate and control others was anything but idyllic. His red eyes and swollen lips from beatings at home earned him cruel nicknames at school. But the physical bruises on his body were no match for the wounds to his spirit. How this inwardly wounded boy grew up to become a healer of thousands of like-wounded boys and girls through the ministry of Project PATCH is the stuff of miracles. And this book tells the story. From Sanford’s own troubled past to the heartbreaking stories of the children he and his wife Bonnie have rescued, “Wounded Healer” is an emotional journey of faith, struggle, and redemption. Long after you close the covers of this book, the stories of young lives changed on the miracle ranch known as PATCH will remain in your heart forever.
Buy Here
Positive discipline techniques. Humorous ways to get your point across without acting authoritarian. Creative parenting skills. Disciplining in ways that will inspire your children to be your friends once they get to be adults. Creative ways to gain and maintain control in your family. Logic is not the key to successful discipline, love and consistency are. Ways to protect your empty nest from returning adult children.
Buy Here
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